In Memory of mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers & friends- Transgender Day of Remembrance 2012

In memory and the struggle of transgender men and women; both those we have lost, and those who continue to live their lives.

image courtesy of Paul Parkinson

I maybe late in the game today, but I do not think you can actually put a date on the necessity of remembering for this, we need to remember it each day. But for the last 14 years November 20th is International Transgender Day of Remembrance. I have stood up for, had to actually state “I am the mother of a child who is gay” just so folks say, “Oh she knows what she is talking about”, instead of — “WHAT is the issue? Why are we even questioning this? He is your co-worker, your friend..   She is your employee or employer… They are child … he is your student… ? What can possibly be making you have that look on your face.”

Why should I need to identify any of this? Because people are insistent on labels and putting people in boxes. People are people, why not treat them as such. Because even in this day and age, when more and more people are realizing this is not a choice!  Bigots and hate mongers, and destroyers of lives still run amuck. Today we look, we remember, we light a candle for those who have died at the hands of the haters and closed minded (insert your favorite mean spirited word because I have nothing nice to say and you know what Thumper says) at one LGBT populace, one that is probably the most difficult to live, and one I cannot imagine how some of my dearest of friends who happen to fall into this “box” deal with on a day to day basis.

Meet Natasha Troop. She is a writer, a parent, a teacher, a friend, a lover, a weaver of worlds… a poet, a woman, a member of the human race and a post op Transgender Woman. She is one of the most beautiful women inside and out I know, and she is my friend. I wanted to share her photo today, with her beloved bridge from Stansbury, VT from her current novel series. She is one of the lucky ones, she has a wonderful family, an incredibly support system and she is alive. For her and for every transgender man and woman who live daily with the hate that have caused a day of remembrance to be necessary, I love you and this is one 21st Century Mom, lover, Mona Lisa, Alaskan, teacher, student, writer………. member of the human race

I have watched the violence over the years towards my friends, the slander and the slurs, the discrimination… I can do or say nothing more than what I do now, be a friend .. sometimes I fall down on the job (sorry guys) sometimes I get lost in my own crap, but overall, you are my friends. I do not like even using labels, because you are who you are, but I am really extra proud to call you my friend, and I am honored to know you. You teach me more about how to be a member of the human race every day, thanks.

50 Transgender Icons Courtesy of YouTube


“The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. The event is held in November to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28th, 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Rita Hester’s murder — like most anti-transgender murder cases — has yet to be solved.

We live in times more sensitive than ever to hatred based violence, especially since the events of September 11th. Yet even now, the deaths of those based on anti-transgender hatred or prejudice are largely ignored. Over the last decade, more than one person per month has died due to transgender-based hate or prejudice, regardless of any other factors in their lives. This trend shows no sign of abating.

The Transgender Day of Remembrance serves several purposes. It raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people, an action that current media doesn’t perform. Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred. Day of Remembrance reminds non-transgender people that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends and lovers. Day of Remembrance gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil, memorializing those of us who’ve died by anti-transgender violence.”

From International Transgender Day of Remembrance website.

For detailed statistics about the numbers of people killed worldwide due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice, visit the March 2012 update from the Trans Murder Monitoring project.


HUFFINGTON 2012POST – 50 Transgender Icons

NO H8 2011 post

You can download the full TGEU TDOR 2012 Press Release here.

To see a map showing all 265 reported cases of the TMM TDOR 2012 update, please click here.

In comparison to the TDOR updates of the last years (162 reports 2009, 179 reports in 2010, 221 in 2011), we are witnessing a significant increase, which points to the extreme level of violence many trans people continue to be exposed to.

The update shows reports of murdered or killed trans people in 29 countries in the last 12 months, with the majority from Brazil (126), Mexico (48), and the USA (15), followed by Venezuela (9), Honduras (8), Colombia (6), Uruguay (6) and Guatemala (5). In Asia most reported cases have been found in India (6), Pakistan (5) and the Philippines (4), and in Europe in Turkey (5).

You can find a list with names and more detailed data here.

Note: The above quouted text is from

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